Originally Posted by
theriviera
gatorsmom, this is all so helpful. I have been hesitant to take things away for a long period of time because I would rather reward positive behavior than punish negative behavior but it looks like we are heading down that path. Right now they have no screen time (outside of school, HA!) during the week. If they get through the day with no other tabs open other than the ones required for school, they can earn 30 minutes. It's all or nothing.
They all have things to doodle with, some small legos, and other fidget toys on their desks. I agree this is really hard. I just think that my DD2 needs the social pressure to behave that she would have at school At home she doesn't care lol.
I was dreading the virtual learning this year just because it’s all so new to all of us. It’s been hard.
I understand what you mean about positive behavior. That is definitely important. I have received push back here on the bbb before for “punishing” my kids so I really should mention that I give constant positive feedback to my kids and Dh. And maybe that’s why setting strict consequences works well when they don’t behave. They like the positive and seek it. I give it easily and frequently. But breaking rules have consequences that are uncomfortable. Their world is happy and pleasant as long as they follow the house rules.
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.