Oh man, Latia, I’ve been thinking of you a lot lately. I’ve been thinking how angry I would be at my relatives if they gave COVID19 to my grandmother and I’ve wondered how you handled the funeral. I’m sorry to hear it hasn’t happened yet. I’m afraid I don’t have much advice. I’d be calling my aunt and uncle murderers, I’m afraid, and behaving badly.
Are you sure the chapel will allow 40 people to gather inside? I’d say if your uncle wants to have the meal at your grandmothers house he should be responsible for clean up. Also, who’s paying for that? Your grandmother’s estate? Keep in mind that items will probably start disappear. If no one has sorted out your grandmothers house yet, they will be going over there soon to pick things over. I’ve seen aunts and uncles get weird about taking things after all my grandparents passed away and my brother rifled through the house after my dad died looking for things (he didn’t admit it, but I cleaned my dad’s house for years after my mom passed away and I know how I left things). So, if there is something your mom wants, I’d get it now and discuss it with her siblings later.
I agree with you- going out the burial site is the only showing I’d make. The limo idea is insane. Whose going to pay for that? Who’s the executor? Ugh, let the games begin.
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.