Latia, you've been in my thoughts. Perhaps you and your mom can plan a memorial in your home, for just your immediate family and mom. Pull up old photos, everyone tell a loving or funny story about her, ask your mom to tell about various times in her life, so everyone has good thoughts and good memories as you say goodbye to grandma. Maybe cook Grandma's favorite recipes, listen to music she liked, wear something she would love...
I couldn't attend my beloved uncle's memorial because I was high-risk pregnant with DS2, who was due in 2 weeks, and the memorial was too far a drive from my hospital. I still wish, 12 years later, that I'd had my own memorial or that we'd figured out how to somehow livestream it so I could "be" there.
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Mama to DS1 Punkin (2/04) and DS2 Boo (1/09)