Originally Posted by
ezcc
My parents moved to a large, high end condo building in an urban area when they were fairly young- in their 60s- and my father unfortunately passed away quite suddenly not long after they moved. It was honestly such a great thing they had already done that move- it was so much easier for her to be a widow in her new place. Now that she is in her 70s she is moving to a different building closer to my brother and me but still just a regular condo- not assisted or senior living. The covered parking, doorman, repair people she can easily call etc, etc, have just made her life so much easier- she can travel (in normal times) without worrying about leaving her house. There are restaurants and grocery stores she can walk to, neighbors in her building that she is friends with- it's just a great lifestyle for an older person. I would encourage them to at least consider something like that.
My great aunt and uncle did this when they were in their 60’s. They actually downsized into a condo that was connected to an assisted living facility as well as a full-time nursing home. It’s where she had been volunteering for a long time. It worked out so seamlessly. Moving there at a young age while still active meant they became familiar with the campus, the staff and facilities as well as the neighborhood area. So when my great aunt finally gave up her drivers license she could still give directions for people helping her. They lived in their condo for nearly a decade before my great uncle passed away and my great aunt needed more care. She still had her own little place but received a lot more help. How they handled that transition is so different from how some of my other aunts and uncles have handled it which were agonizing and stressful for their kids. I hope Dh and I can follow their lead.
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