Like you, my parents didn’t shield me back in the 80’s either. Nor could they, really since there were televisions all over the house. If I didn’t like what my parents were watching in the kitchen I could go to their room or my brother’s or the basement to watch something else without any oversight. Even at that age I thought they were making a mistake. My mom offered many times to put a tv in my room but I always said no. She nagged me to waste less time reading but pushed the tv. I still don’t get it.
In my own house, we have 2 tvs connected to streaming and internet. The primary one is in our great room so easily visible to everyone. The other is in my bedroom (Dh won that one!) and we never watch it except when the kids and I are doing a mammoth laundry sorting and folding. So we can control what they watch on those TVs. I can talk about what they are seeing, ask them how they feel about what they are really seeing, how realistic is what we are seeing versus what is artistic life Ds’s, etc. It seems like if we can talk about it, they won’t be as traumatized because they will feel more in-control of their feelings.
The real challenge is controlling the electronics and protecting them from the garbage they watch on their phones, iPads, etc. I try to help them realize that some of the garbage that they watch is even more harmful for them than junk food, too loud music, etc. I hope by talking about it they will consciously make a better choice but only time will tell if I’m doing a better job than my parents.
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.