I'm useless on this subject. DS1 and DS2 never fight. That's because DS1 is a total peacemaker (AKA pushover). There are ample conflicts between the other three kids! But I'm terrible at it. I usually handle it by just "taking away" what ever is being fought over and I'm sure that's not always the fair solution. I find these things utterly exhausting but I know I'm not solving anything by wishing these conflicts away. I'm looking for books, blogs, instagram accounts or what have you that might help with this.
Thank you!
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02-23-2021 #1
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Parenting resources for sibling rivalry?
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What happens if you just let them figure it out? Like totally hands off. What happens?
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Following! I only have 2 but they fight like cats and dogs! And because they are boys, if I leave them to handle it, it quickly turns to hitting and biting, and throwing things.
I do have a book by Laura Markham called 'Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids' that a friend recommended. I haven't read it yet.Last edited by petesgirl; 02-23-2021 at 08:00 PM.
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DD hits viciously. DS3 whines and DS2 (who is older, more socially astute and somewhat mean-spirited when bored) runs roughshod over everyone.
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I’m in the same boat with older kids. Funny thing is problems are usually DS1 (my quieter kid) being bored or being mean.
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DS2 is my easiest kid BY FAR. What is so insidious about these interactions is that he is always quiet and gets what he wants leaving DD and DS3 in a whining and hitting mess and they get "punished" for that behavior, and DS2 doesn't "do anything wrong" yet somehow there is always mayhem when he's bored! Originally Posted by jgenie
I’m in the same boat with older kids. Funny thing is problems are usually DS2 (my quieter kid) being bored or being mean.
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I just saw the recommendation! I will check this out. I'm on a streak getting library books from curbside pickup! Originally Posted by petesgirl
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This is a good book
https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-With...2212/ref=nodl_DS #1 Summer 05
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Keep us updated! Originally Posted by bisous
My DS2 and DS3 fight like feral animals a lot of the time. DS3 loves pushing DS2's buttons and DS2 always overreacts to the tiniest things which only makes DS3 enjoy it more. Occasionally they do play together really well but not often.Angie
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02-24-2021 #10
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I just signed up for curbside pickup for both books mentioned in this thread. It has been a long time since I've read a purely parenting driven book! I will certainly distill my opinion on what (if anything) is helpful on that front, haha.
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