People at work don't care about me :(

[twowhat?]

And it makes me sad. I live in TX, so was greatly impacted by last week's arctic winter storm, 2 days without power/heat, etc. On the first day without power, I got a "request" to do a rather large project for work. Cell towers weren't working well here either but I managed to get an email out about what was going on in TX (as if the national news weren't enough). My boss tried to be helpful and asked how important it was to get this project done, given my situation. The answer was basically that it was needed within a week. No email saying "are you OK?" No texts. No calls. Nothing. Just "we need it next week". From people I work with on a daily basis. So, cold, frustrated, and angry, I got it done. Don't ask me how I did it, but I consider it a superhuman feat. I'm also dang good at what I do.

And I'm so mad and so sad.

That is all.

[jgenie]

I’m sorry!

[Globetrotter]

I am sorry - they are fortunate to have someone as dedicated as you. You deserve better.

[petesgirl]

Wow, that's crazy. Hopefully it's a case of awkward people not knowing what to say so they don't say anything. Still not right though.

[carolinamama]

I'm sorry. Some people suck.

[SnuggleBuggles]

Wow, that's crazy. Hopefully it's a case of awkward people not knowing what to say so they don't say anything. Still not right though.

Not to generalize/stereotype but if these are techy people they might just not be good at that stuff. But, it still sucks and they really should figure out the basics of empathy


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[twowhat?]

Not to generalize/stereotype but if these are techy people they might just not be good at that stuff. But, it still sucks and they really should figure out the basics of empathy


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Definitely not tech. And mostly women, too.

I shouldn't let it bother me. It's not like these are friends, they are colleagues. And like with gifts, I probably shouldn't *expect* anything. But it definitely felt like piling work onto me without even a single word of compassion was like salt in the wound.

[Liziz]

How completely disappointing! It's so frustrating to find out that people you interact with routinely handle a situation so differently than you would handle it yourself (as I'm sure, if situation was reversed, you would have reached out to check on colleagues). I'd be upset too.

[wendibird22]

That really stinks. People are so wrapped up into their own world sometimes (most times!) that they don't think of others.

Are these women located in another region? I wonder if they are from the snowy northeast for example and oblivious/ignorant to how impactful snow and freezing temps are to places like Texas who aren't built for that.

I heard from plenty of my TX friends who work at colleges how they were just supposed to carry on as business as usual, while homeschooling kids whose schools were closed/damaged, work from home, respond to pandemic needs, and oh yeah can you also take care of these thousands of students without power, water, food, internet too all from your home office you squeezed out space for in your closet? While the pandemic has in some ways helped work environments give employees flexibility with hours and work from home, it has also created an unfair expectation that you can now work 24hr a day without regard to what is going on in the employee's personal life. It's not sustainable.

[twowhat?]

That really stinks. People are so wrapped up into their own world sometimes (most times!) that they don't think of others.

Are these women located in another region? I wonder if they are from the snowy northeast for example and oblivious/ignorant to how impactful snow and freezing temps are to places like Texas who aren't built for that.

They are from all over the US - from the west coast to the midwest to the east coast. So, maybe they're unsympathetic but Texas was allll over the news for the crisis we were in (I grabbed a few CNN screenshots for our own memory-making since we were so front-page news), and I specifically stated in my email what I was dealing with (no power, no heat in single digit temps that dropped to negative numbers at night, no internet, spotty cell service) and still...the only response I got was "we need it in a week". No heat in a house that drops into the 40s with kids and pets is waaaaaay different than having heat in the middle of a winter storm with no kids to care for. But I guess people wouldn't know unless they experienced it. And when I delivered the project, NOT A SINGLE THANK YOU from them.

Unfortunately, fair or not, this has colored my personal opinion of these women and the "teamwork" environment that they say they are fostering but really aren't.

I mean, I had colleagues from PAST companies I worked for texting me to ask if we were OK! Ugh. Still so sad, but I am going to get over it and pull on my big girl panties and soldier on.