How to handle - inappropriate comments UPDATE in 13
DD is 14 and plays soccer on a predominantly male team. Her team often practices with the boys team that is the year younger than hers. I think there are maybe a total of 5 girls on the combined teams. We've had ongoing conversations about how the boys don't always immediately see her as a teammate who has the same skill level as they do and that she unfortunately has had to "earn" their respect as a teammate. She has been fine with this and there are no problems with this.
Last night, after a game, she was telling me about a kid who is on the younger team (so I am assuming maybe 12 or 13) and how much she hates him. As we talked, she was sharing how he makes comments about how the girls would be nothing without the boys on the team, how they are too weak to do a push up on their own, how they need "protecting" on the field by the boys, etc. DD says that he is the worst about the sexist type comments but that some others have said random things. She doesn't like it, but for the most part chalks it up to immaturity and ignores it.
However, she shared last night that this kid in particular has made comments about her chest. This crosses the line for me. DD wants to hit him. Trying to not incite violence, but also want to support DD that this is not ok and she does not have to be silent when a male makes an unwanted comment regarding her body. She said she told him to "shut up" and walked away.
I am wondering if I should take this information to the club director. It is a rather small club, but the director is a female in her mid to late 20's and I know she would not appreciate this type of interaction happening within the teams.
Would you tell her? How much would you share if you would talk to her?
Thanks for your responses.
Last edited by DietCokeLover; 04-07-2021 at 07:12 PM.
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