ncat, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, this would one of those situations I would be very hard pressed to 'agree to disagree'. And the situation with your DD would tear me up.
Timely article in the NYT about gender gaps in vaccine rates. Some is attributable to higher % of women in the various high priority fields, but also...fair amount of resistance/refusal: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/22/h...and-women.html