We just got invited to a 5 yr old neighbor girl's outdoor bday party. Invite says no gifts. Could I just take one of our favorite children's books with a bow on it? I have the cutest one for that age!
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05-12-2021 #1
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Do you honor 'no gift' bday invites?
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05-12-2021 #2
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Always. I stretch it a bit with something like a fun musical card though.
If you do want to do the gift, don't bring it to the party. You could make other guests feel bad if they came empty handed and might put the host in a tricky position. Since it's your neighbor, deliver it another time.
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05-12-2021 #3
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Yes. I just get a really great card.
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05-12-2021 #4
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Yes I always honored the request.
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05-12-2021 #5
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Sometimes I put a giftcard in the card, so no one feels bad if they do honor the request. When we had a no gift party most people brought gifts (we requested no gifts because we were moving, didn't want more stuff to haul, and just wanted everyone to be able to attend without worrying about shopping)
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05-12-2021 #6
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If it is a little kid like that I put a gift card in a birthday card.
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05-12-2021 #7
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Yes, I honor the request. From past experience, parents have good reasons for asking for no gifts. Going against their wishes can cause problems. Besides, when one guest brings a gift, it makes all the other parents feel like chumps for not bringing anything.
Give the birthday kid the book another time." I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.
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05-13-2021 #8
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Please honor the request. We did “no gifts” for DS’s 3rd many years ago and I still remember how awful it was when some people
Walked in with gifts and others didn’t. Most just brought cards but some brought gifts and it made those that didn’t feel uncomfortable. The party location tried to grab and hide them in a back room but it was still awkward enough that we never did a no gift party again because I realized some people just can’t follow directions.
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05-13-2021 #9
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Yes. I might have my kids make a card if I remember.
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05-13-2021 #10
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Yes, but I try to do something extra with the card - like a helium balloon from the dollar store, or a lollipop.
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