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nfceagles
Thank you everybody! For the helpful and calming words. Deep breaths. I always had dreams of raising a strong confident daughter and struggle figuring out how to help her when she’s so negative about everything and won’t even talk sometimes.
I think I’m going to combine a bribe with asking her to give this one appointment a chance. Then she can decide whether to return. Because I think it’s mostly about being shy and embarrassed. I did explain that I was just looking to find a local doctor since we can’t see the other one, but she was refusing to even respond to me.
She has been in person school almost all year but I think the masks provide some cover. I was actually trying to get an appointment so we could hopefully make some progress before next fall when I expect they will be maskless.
Re birth control options, will that require a pelvic exam with a gynecologist, because if I can barely get her to a Derm I don’t think I can face a gyn visit at this time.
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Oh, but you likely WILL have a strong confident daughter! Puberty is a process and she’s just at the beginning. I saw puberty turn my lively vivacious goofy boys into insecure, quiet kids. It takes time and loving parents. My boys are now so impressive! At 17 and 15 they have become used to puberty and are comfortable with themselves.
I wanted to add that you’ve had great advice here. We saw a derm several times for Ds1. He initially fought it. He said it didn’t matter, he didn’t care and didn’t wanna deal with it. I brought up the valid point that he might not care now but he might be annoyed by the scarring later. Also, having those painful cysts is annoying! The thing that seems to cure him, was an antibiotic called seracycline. I can’t remember how long he was on it (6 weeks? 3 months? Not sure), but it made a HUGE difference. That was 2 years ago and he hasn’t had cystic acne since. He’ll get a sprinkling of stress pimples around finals but that’s about it. Apparently some acne is caused by bacteria and nothing will kill it as effectively and quickly as around of antibiotics.
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