How to shutdown critical comments with grandparents
Originally Posted by
hbridge
I usually wait and talk to DC, then let family know it is inappropriate and how they overstepped. If it is blatant, I will shut it down with as few words as possible. For example when the older generation asks if she has a boyfriend, I will respond with something like “that is not important, please let her be”. DC and I will then discuss what happened later and I will ask how they want me to respond.
My grandmother used to ask me that all the time. “Why don’t you have a boyfriend? You have such a good figure.” I told her that I wouldn’t want a boyfriend who liked me for my good figure.
Is DS around when your MIL makes those comments? Can he respond? “It’s just a myth only children get along better with adults.”
I also have trouble with grandparents making critical/annoying comments. Sometimes I ignore it and other times I respond too sharply. It’s a struggle when the comment feels personal. I try to remember they are old and have weird views on things. Ideally, I’ll roll my eyes internally and talk about it with my sister later.
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