Update- you guys were so helpful with this problem that I thought you might like an update. Dh and I and our oldest 2 boys visited some colleges out of town recently. It was great for Ds1. It put a little distance between him and his girlfriend which he desperately needed. She was getting really clingy and needy, pushing away her friends and wanting to spend all her time with Ds1. He was feeling frustrated and claustrophobic. Before he left he told her he wanted her to make more friends, at least contact them and do something’s with them or he wasn’t going to continue dating her. While he was gone she took his advice. She is rebuilding friendships and is enrolled at our school next year. There are at least 3 girls in her class who she knows and likes (out of a class of 10). Her parents took the suicide attempt very seriously and she is now working with a therapist who has experience with teenage issues and teenage suicide and at a reduced rate. Ds1 told me that her parents started her on Prozac (which is what Ds1 takes. I had told the parents how well it works for 2 of my kids). Apparently while we were out of town they did take their daughter to see her pediatrician and they started her on Prozac. These are HUGE wins for the girlfriend. If you follow the threads you’ll see how we struggled to find therapy at a rate the parents could afford and how deeply they were frozen with fear and in denial about it. Ds1 said that things are looking up and and after that trip, she’s more positive and they enjoy doing things together again. It’s a very positive outcome.
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A couple of weeks ago I posted that my Ds1 was dating a sweet 16yo girl who is struggling with anxiety, cutting, and suicidal thoughts. I told her parents 2 weeks ago about her attempted suicide. They seemed very concerned, choked up and beside themselves with worry when I told them. They told their daughter they would look into a therapist they knew and trusted to get her started. As far as Ds1 knows, she has not yet seen any therapist. Ds1 took his girlfriend to the County Health department where they offer therapy on a sliding scale and have a 24 hour hotline. She went there and they told her they do not have any therapists at the moment taking new clients. They are booked.
A huge thank you to Pinkmomagain for suggesting openpathcollective.org because I found an experienced therapist in the area who will charge less based on a demonstrated need. This girls’ family is struggling financially. I emailed a link for this therapist to Ds1 and told him that his girlfriend really needs to pursue this.
What else can I do? She uses her iPod and wifi to call friends. She doesn’t have a phone. Tonight she was on hold for 45 minutes with Robbies Hope (online suicide resource in Colorado) before she could speak with someone. Ds1 had a prior commitment he needed to get to but felt he should stay on the line with her. What’s my next step to help this girl? Is it appropriate for me to pay the openpathcollective membership fee so she can start online counseling? This girl has a job so could pay for some of this therapy and take some of the financial burden off her parents. Or do I call her parents again and ask them what the hell is taking so long? My son cannot be her sole means of psychological support. We care about her deeply but I also worry about the stress on my son.
Here is the previous thread I posted: https://windsorpeak.com/vbulletin/sh...53#post4398453