Originally Posted by
AnnieW625
I would want him to finish the Eagle Scout as well. That will stay with him for life; a part time summer job....maybe but the Eagle Scout is an amazing accomplishment. It will look good on college apps., and intern applications, and part time jobs in college that will mean something. I think it will help his mental health a ton as well. Job wise see if he can do something for your church or neighbors/friends/family members like mowing lawns, dog sitting, etc. .
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THIS. Push him to get his project done. It’s hard getting to this point with all the merit badge and rank requirements. If he’s done all that, he should try to finish it. He can get a job afterwards, he get his license afterwards. There are no expiration dates on those activities. But he only gets one chance to see this through. Urge him to make this a goal. Give him advice on how to get started. The first few steps of any project are always the hardest. Give him some advice and reminders as he is moving forward on this. Once he’s outlined his plan and made a few moves, he will see that this is doable and he will pick up speed. This will give him confidence.
My DS1 dragged his feet something terrible on this. He struggles with depression and procrastinates a LOT. I pushed him to contact his troop leaders. I reminded him to set up meetings with people, I pushed him to create a plan, told him how to find numbers for people to contact about projects, reminded him to return emails, etc. Dh and I were involved a lot in the beginning. But he found his confidence after he made 3 fundraising presentations to local businesses. They praised him and gushed to us over his speeches. Now he is running this project 100% himself. Now He’s excited about it, organized and making progress. He will get it done in the next month- 6weeks which is a little more than a month before his 18th birthday. It took some serious pushing at first but now he’s found his momentum. I suspect your DS and DH will get more involved and excited about this too, once your ds takes the initial steps forward. GL!
Last edited by gatorsmom; 04-28-2021 at 06:56 PM.
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