Originally Posted by
basil
I'm not going to walk out tomorrow - I was able to negotiate a hefty vacation allowance but it's just not long term sustainable. I know you guys can't solve my career problems, there are really probably only a few in the country that truly could advise me on options, but I am just interested in what it feels like to drastically cut back after working so hard to be good at what you do. I worry that I'll feel disappointed in myself, or bored, or lazy, or ??? But I haven't had more than a week off in a row except for maternity leave since 2004 so what do I know?
My career wasn’t nearly as fulfilling or rewarding as saving lives through surgery, but when I quit I went through a phase of feeling like I was lazy and disappointed in myself for not working. I’m guessing you will indeed feel that for a period if you retire. Based on what you are saying, how much you believe in what you do and how important your work is for others, you will really need to want to stop, in order for it not to haunt you later. You will have to be at your rope’s end for you to quit without feeling regret. If I under correctly from my friend who was the GI doc, it’s very difficult to get back in once you quit. So going back isn’t an option.
All that said, I will always be thankful for the time with my kids. I’ve long thought that kids need their parents less as babies and toddlers but more as teenagers. That’s when the really big questions come up. And even thought they don’t need help constantly like they do as babies, when they do need help discussing something or thinking something through, the decisions they make can have MUCH bigger consequences if they get them wrong.
Ultimately, your kids will be fine, whether you retire or not. You have to decide what you really want. And you’ll have to decide what will mean more to you in 10-15 years.
It’s not an easy decision. If you don’t mind, I’ll offer prayers for you tonight that you find peace.
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