Originally Posted by
echoesofspring
IMO it doesn't matter what the activity was and whether your concerns were justified, they disrespected you by laughing and dismissing your concerns. That's not how adults are supposed to behave, and not the kind of behavior I would expect leaders to model. The gender differs just makes it even ickier frankly, and w/out hearing more feels a little like gaslighting (classic sexist move to laugh and tell the woman she isn't making any sense). You may not be the leader but iiuc your a long time volunteer and from the perspective of the scouts are part of the leadership of the trip.
. Yes, it felt like a sexist gaslighting move to me at the time too. Thank you for your support. There was no willingness to discuss or listen to my reasons and offer a rational explanation for their insistence. Let’s just ignore the crazy lady and rally the troops. Except the girls sided with me, which is why it didn’t happen.
Originally Posted by
echoesofspring
I think before you talk to the council member you need to know what you want the resolution to be. If you think this leader has a continued history of poor judgement, what do you want to happen? Do you want the council leader to talk to them, do you want them to be replaced, etc. If you don't have a clear idea of what you would like to see happen, you may come off as 'that parent who's always unhappy' vs. someone raising legit concerns about how the troop is being led.
This is a good point. And unfortunately I suspect the council member’s suggestion to fix the problems will be for me to become troop leader next year. And unfortunately, I’m already leading my DD’s crafting/church group. I’m the only parent organizer so I do everything. I can’t also lead the bsa troop right now.
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