Originally Posted by
carolinamama
I think it makes sense to give her the option of caring for her long hair or cutting it shorter. It's a matter of self-hygiene. I would probably cut it short enough to get rid of the length but long enough to still put up in a ponytail so slightly longer than shoulder-length.
My DD has long, wavy hair that is easily matted. She uses the Not Your Mothers Naturals Leave In Conditioner to brush through in the morning. I cut it in half with water so it doesn't build up too much. She also brushes it in the shower before rinsing out her conditioner, which is only twice a week, and sleeps with a loose braid if it's still wet. This makes a huge difference.
I was going to suggest this routine. Can you convince her that a loose braid can help prevent painful tangles?
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