Yikes. Yesterday was such a mixed bag. It was a great day for DS1. He had his Eagle Board of Review and "passed", lol. He is beyond thrilled. Literally he said he was the happiest he has been in "months, maybe years" and so obviously I'm thrilled for that reason alone.
But I'm just so disappointed in my two little kids! We're a little unused to being as busy as we were yesterday and my original thought was that we'd have DS3 and DD (ages 10 and 8) come with us to fete DS1 as he finishes the process. Many families do this! My kids were HARD toddlers. They could never have done this at the ages that I've seen with so many families! Instead it has lead to years of splitting our family in half or trying to get the grandparents/babysitters involved. After all, the kids are no longer toddlers, but considerably older! But could they attend. Nope. Apparently not.
Instead, yesterday my kids had to be dragged out kicking and screaming from a birthday party they were both invited to to make the event. There were tears. There were threats (on their part). They are 8 and 10! They called me names and literally had to be pulled away. It was the first real birthday party they had attended in years together. There was a jolly jump and a pinata and the whole nine yards. Because of the board of review, they had to leave about 30 minutes early and THEY HAD A FIT.
If I set aside the fact that I'm SO embarrassed that they acted that way, I was just so frustrated because I couldn't figure out how to handle DS1's very important event that evening! My parents aren't up to handling my kids when they behave that way. So I left them HOME. It was only about an hour and they were supervised in a sense by my neighbor who knew they were home and was watching the front door. In fact, she actually chased off the UPS guy from knocking on the door, lol. They were safe enough with my neighbors help. And all was fine-ish.
I just can't help feeling disappointed that they're still not old enough and don't have enough self-control to do things that I feel like kids much younger than they are capable of achieving--namely sitting quietly for about an hour while we wait for DS1 to finish! A part of me thinks this is somehow my own parenting fault. I can accept that if only I knew what I could have done/should be doing differently. Another part knows that they've both got issues that make this yard AND when they're together they make each other worse. I don't know which actually makes me feel worse.
I just lament that apparently our family dynamics are such that we still can't do things all six of us as a family that I see other families do and that makes me sad.