hello and welcome to my pity party. 2022 edition.
(please don't quote me.) i've been actively trying to look for a new job since January.... and have just been collecting rejection and after rejection. i've applied to over 60-80 positions, all after careful filtering, review & consideration. i have a kickass resume that has gotten extensive professional review. i have several years of experience for the role i'm looking for. Yet so far I am collecting nothing but rejections. Rejection right off the bat right after applying. Rejection after zoom screenings, phone interviews. Big companies. Small companies. Companies where the role matches almost exactly to what I do now, i have the experience, where I don't even want to work at but a "safe" application for "practice" - rejected, rejected, rejected off the bat without a call. Then a couple weeks ago I had a phone interview that seemed very promising, and i felt the hiring manager and i hit it off extremely well, went into a lot of details of the role, the call ended up talking twice as long as planned and in the end they even told me I was the lead candidate for the role, they would be in touch in a few days. This would be a fully remote position, and would be approx 30% raise in salary alone, way better bonus, stock etc not to mention a role perfect for the transition I was trying to make. A couple weeks went by and so I reached out and then got response of thanks, but they just decided to hire another candidate they felt they had better experience match. Sigh
i have another phone screening interview for another company on Monday that i need to prepare for and i am already dreading it bc i feel like it's no use, why should this one be any different than the prior ones (and this company is 10x harder to get into than the others). And DH (a saint) took the kids by himself to the ILs (6+ hour drive) by himself this weekend for Easter, so i could stay home and study/prepare for this phone screening interview. DH and kids left this morning..right before that, DD (11), was really hugging me and was saying she sad i wasn't going with them on the trip for Easter. I normally don't feel mom guilt but this time I did. Because I feel like despite all this, at this rate i'm likely just going to fail and disappoint my family again, and that just kills me
i have many reasons for looking for a new job, one is i need the option to move out of state to my hometown to be closer to my family. My mom has Parkinsons that is advancing quickly and while DH & I are totally onboard to move I really need to be making much more $$$ to afford to live there. Or at least I need a fully remote position that pays more so I can travel much more and work from anywhere. i really need to be making *at least* 30% more than what I do now (and i feel i deserve to, based on my credentials/track record!!). I know several colleagues from my alma mater who are making double what i make in remote positions for Silicon Valley tech companies so i KNOW it's not unrealistic.
So...job hunting sucks. At least it does for me. I knew job hunting would suck, I didn't expect soul-crushing to the core. I expected rejections, just not rejections at every turn, from everywhere for months on end. I'm tired of reading job forums where all I read about are people evaluating offers or preparing for loop interviews , getting rejected from A but not B or C, when after months i apparently can't even make it to a single on-site, let alone evaluating an offer. I'm tired. I don't have more time to devote to this as my current job is demanding. And if it wasn't already hard now, summer is coming in less than month when kids will be out of school, and then my current company is going back to the office.
As this is the BP, any commiseration, BTDT , words of encouragement, is welcome! I'd prefer no random job search advice or suggestions - i don't think i can deal right now with explaining why i can't do x or y or that i've already tried xxx and then some. I already got great suggestions from y'all in my other thread and i've taken a lot of it to heart. I think the awful thing is I have no one IRL to talk to , my poor DH is tired of hearing me complain about my frustration with things and my current role. And then I feel bad for burdening my DH who already does so much.
thanks for reading. if you have BTDT experience from this process, if you by chance had similar experience, spent months got rejected from nine interviews and finally landed the tenth, that ended up your dream job, that paid way better, etc i'd LOVE to hear it bc i could really use the encouragement right now! I know I need to keep going in this process, but not sure how much longer of this I can take .
eta: The worst part...my kids, being tweens, I think need me more than ever, and yet i have been needing to spend so much of my time working my current job and looking for a new one to no avail... the sense of being a failure and disappointment to my family is sky-high right now, which is unusual for me. if i could drink, i totally would.