Originally Posted by
California
It can be very painful to hear that this is a part of a child's life. Did your son just want to talk it through, or do you think he's hoping that she can get some help (even if she might not want it at first)? Either way how reassuring that he came to you to discuss this.
If 8th grade promotion was today, teachers and admins should still be on site tomorrow. You still have time to email the school counselor and principal and share what you have written on here, and request to remain anonymous.
As a mandated reporter, sometimes (IME) when I've contacted the counselor or principal it turns out the counselor and CPS are already aware of the situation- though they won't be able to share that with you- and there is already a report in progress. Or it may be that others have reported their suspicions and your report is the one that finally gives the counselor enough info for reasonable suspicion.
If you don't want to go the route of reporting, contacting the grandparent or the father are at least doing something. But, the positive for going through the school system is that there will be a record made in case anything else happens in the future.