Long story short, DD (16) is this close to having a mental breakdown because of a horrible, mean swim coach who is unfairly excluding her from the fast practice group. (I’m pretty sure I discussed this in years past.) DD had self advocated, the coach has demeaned her and belittled her. I’ve contacted the activities director and spoken with him twice. He agrees DD is being treated unfairly but he can’t force the swim coach to do anything. I want DD to quit but she is refusing and cries all the time about it and can’t get anything else done. She doesn’t want to swim club right now because none of the girls (her friends) are swimming club because it’s girls high school season. DD is mortified this is happening to her. (FWIW, I know two other parents who had horrible issues with this coach in the past…neither went to the activities director because their daughters begged them not to, which was the case with DD last year.) I don’t even want to get into describing why it’s unfair, but DD’s times clearly qualify her for the fast group and there is tons of space (fast group was 24 last year but it’s only 18 now…In a 8 lane pool.) She swims with these girls at club practice during the year, next to them at meets, beat some of them at state last month. She’s clearly deserving. But the coach is a vindictive B who gets off in tormenting teenage girls. I don’t know how to help DD work through this. I don’t want her to get depressed and do poorly in her classes. She loves swimming and has swam competitively for 8+ years. (I think the coach is targeting her because she quit during fall 2020 when the coach didn’t follow the districts Covid protocols and We didn’t feel comfortable with her on the team.) I don’t know how to help DD through this.
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