I can’t say it IRL so I’m venting here..
FIL IS A SELFISH, CHILDISH, CRITICAL BASTARD WHO IS KILLING HIS WIFE. SHE DRINKS BECAUSE HE NAGS HER AND HE NAGS HER BECAUSE HE’S AN INSECURE BABY WHO DOESN'T WANT TO CHANGE. He’s unhappy with himself and so he takes it out on her. Ok, I needed to shout that out.
He’s 77yo and he’s an absolute asshole. All he does is bitch about MIL. She is drinking again and I know why. It’s because she is stuck living with him and all he does is criticize her. It’s all the time, everyday. Even in public now (he used to be better behaved in public). Living with him, I would drink too!!
Dh doesn’t tiptoe around his dad but doesn’t take him head-on either. So she is dying. It’s playing out in front of me. Dh and his siblings are all rushing around making a big fuss and talking and complaining but not really getting through to their dad or making any progress. And in the meantime, MIL is dying. It’s obvious. She’s thrown in the towel. It’s so sad.
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.