I can’t say it IRL so I’m venting here..

[marinkitty]

How terrible to be on the sidelines of this and not be able to change anything for her. I'm so sorry. Praying her kids can figure out a solution.

[echoesofspring]

I'm so so sorry. I've watched a few people in our family essentially give up and drink themselves to the end and it's heartbreaking to watch and not be able to change the environment they are in. I'm hope your family can figure out how to help her.

[StantonHyde]

your FIL sounds like a classic narcissist and your MIL is trying to survive. She should have divorced him years ago but here you are. Any recovery program worth it's salt would hold FIL accountable for his role in MILs drinking. Sadly, FIL will not change and the kids won't acknowledge that he is one who needs to change. They will all buzz around MIL. She just needs to get away from him. And yes she needs to find a healthier coping mechanism. OR remove the problem! But that won't happen. I can see why she drinks....

[Gracemom]

I'm so sorry. I have a family member in a similar situation and it's so hard. All you can do is take care of yourself and your husband and kids and get through it the best you can.

[niccig]

I'm so sorry. I have a family member in a similar situation and it's so hard. All you can do is take care of yourself and your husband and kids and get through it the best you can.

Agree with Gracemom. Nothing will change. All you can do is protect your immediate family from as much fallout as you can. Would your DH see a therapist to discuss all of this so he can get support and not just rely on you?


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