I struggle with this. I understand the need for it, but my kids were not ready to make decisions on their health care (still aren’t tbh). I can’t remember the age, but at a point the pedi spoke to us together and then took the kid for a private chat during their exam. I liked that as I still had some input and they also had a chance for privacy.
I can’t imagine how difficult it is if there is a chronic illness that you have to monitor.
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, "What? You, too? I thought I was the only one." C.S. Lewis