I am so annoyed right now. My SIL has two kids with birthdays in March and she likes to throw them extravagant parties and has a really hard time if any family member can't come for whatever reason. She also refuses to combine their parties, so every year we are expected to spend 2 of our weekends in March at their parties. If we RSVP no to her for whatever reason, then she takes it very personally and pesters me with texts about why we can't come...what can she change so that we can come, etc. Likewise my mom also pesters me with texts and calls. My parents can't even say no them and have changed play tickets and trips that we previously planned so that they can attend the parties every year. I get that, they are grandparents. I still don't think they have to commit to every birthday party but my mom can't take the guilt trip from SIL either.
SIL lives 1.5 hrs away from us so it's a full day Saturday commitment basically to drive down, stay for the party, and drive back. But it's doable because DH is driving. I have MS and I
am not comfortable driving long distances and especially not in the dark. Well this year one of the parties is on a Friday night. DH will be working and I don't want to drive--distance, darkness and rush hour traffic all play into that. I told them we wouldn't be there and OMG the barrage of messages I am now getting! My mom is calling me prideful...saying I need to do this to support the family...my SIL is taking it personally and asking me why I can't understand that she just wants her kids to be happy....I am dying. I'm normally grateful to be close to family but right now I'm looking up real estate in other parts of the country. I can't take this every. single. year.