Dh and I both received this message from DD2’s home room teacher (6th grade). I know middle schoolers stink and have hormones, but this really rubbed me the wrong way. This teacher has zero filter and if I suspect what happened was that Dd2 was embarrassed about the teacher commenting below and was just mad about that and then didn’t want to sit at the front table to do her work (she isn’t the only kid who usually has to sit there). Also dd2 took a shower last night. She may have worn a dirty shirt and her jacket probably needs to be washed, but read below (and please tell me I am not off my rocker.)
“Good Morning,
This is a sensitive topic to bring up. I am noticing an odor when I'm around _____. Has she been grooming herself of late? I almost sent her home this morning because she threw a fit when I asked her to sit at the front table. She is always on other websites instead of doing her work. Thank you for understanding.”
So Dh responded to the teacher and told her we will talk to DD2 about the issues she brought up above.
I then decided to email the principal who is out of the office until Thursday (I called to talk to her about it in person). This was my message to the principal:
Good morning PRINCIPAL: It is Tuesday 3/28 and I tried to call and speak with you this AM but X said you were out until Thursday, but I wanted you to see the message that we received from TEACHER today about _____.
(Attached teacher message here)
My husband messaged TEACHER back and told her that we would speak to ______ about the issues today which is fine, but I just thought you should know.
We will definitely talk to ______ about not using the internet websites in class (when she is supposed to be working) but there has to be a way to block the internet other than approved sites so they aren’t a distraction (for _____ and other kids).
Please call or message me when you return on Thursday.
Thanks!”
So I think I sound concerned and responded okay but the other issue is the fact that these kids have had school issues iPads (for at least 3 years) and they do not looked to be blocked or set for educational use at all (except I doubt things can be downloaded from the App Store). Granted my kid is guilty of being easily distracted and the school is well aware of this, but I am just amazed that there aren’t any internet blocks or my kid is a computer whiz and knows how to override everything. When dd2 was at home during Covid we used our own iPad and ended up having to buy Cisderm.app to block YouTube and other game sites that were a distraction to Dd2; as she could get away with watching YouTube during class because the first thing they were taught in computers in 4th grade during online instruction was how to split their screens. Dd1s school iPad is locked down pretty well so I know it can be done but I have a hard time believing that the elementary school is somewhat oblivious to all of this….
Fwiw: DD2 is not returning to the school next year. She will be in public middle school (7th-8th grades only). We got her IEP finalized two weeks ago (she is at grade level for her level, but still needs a lot of one on one attention or motivation to get work done) and the current school gave us the option to let her return next year but we had to pay for a tutor to sit with her 3 hrs. per day each school day. I figured that cost was going to be about $1500-$2000 a month on top of the $600 a month in tuition. The public school offers more services (including a specific study/skills planning class in her regular schedule) so we are going to try it out. I also Dd2 that it will be better to have different teachers for all of her subjects (right now her home room teacher teaches social science, English, math, and religion); she has pullouts for Spanish, Computers, art, music, and PE. I generally really like the principal at the school and the pull out teachers and friends who have kids in 7th and 8th grade like the teachers as well, and I liked DD2’s 4th and 5th grade teachers as well. This 6th grade teacher I haven’t cared for at all (her first comment to me ever when I introduced myself and told her who I was was “I know all about your child because I read her file” and rolled her eyes like she knew Dd2 would be a challenge and she wasn’t going to take it seriously. Even Dd1 (who often picks up
dd2 from school notices how the teacher treats Dd2).
Sorry that got to be so long but I would love some input if anyone has anything to give.
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