How do you have your wills and guardianship set up for your children if both parents die while the child is a minor?
We're getting ready to update ours and a few questions we're pondering...
1. Is the executor of your will the same person to whom you're assigning as guardian of your children?
2. Are you leaving all your assets to your children directly, or having them go into some sort of trust or to the person who will be guardian of your children?
We would want our assets to first cover all needed care for our children (including things like the new guardians potentially needing to move to another house to fit our kids, etc.). Anything left over after they're grown we'd then want given to them at some point in the future.
3. Do you have the guardian of your children control the money/assets directly, or do you have another person do this?
4. At what age would you want the children to get the remaining money?
We are asking one of our siblings to be the guardian of our DDs. However, I'd like to ask a different childless-by-choice, very business saavy and organized sibling to be both the executor of the will and to have some control over the assets that will go to our DDs. This is because 1) I don't think the family dealing with 2 now-childless kids needs to have any more legal mess than necessary and I know being an executor can be a pain and 2) despite knowing they'd love our kids forever and raise them well, DH and I have a very different financial philosophy than the intended guardians. It makes me uncomfortable to think of simply allowing them full control of what would likely be substantial assets. That being said, I also have this feeling of "if I'm trusting them with my kids and expecting them to take them in and raise them, I should trust them fully and allow them to do what they think is best".
I know there's not a single right answer in these circumstances, but I'm just curious what others have done!