Hugs. I think so many of us working parents feel the constant tug of work vs home and feel we fall short at both ends of the spectrum. I gave up the concept of work/life balance a long time ago and strive more for work/life harmony...meaning the pendulum is always going to be swinging in one of the directions and so long as over the "seasons" of work and life (we have busy seasons for school and busy seasons for work) there's some resemblance of harmony, then I'm doing ok. And I've snapped at my kids and made them cry more times than I care to admit! It sucks but we are human and crack just like they do!
I'm c-suite and regularly have night/weekend obligations and phone calls that interrupt family time. Tuesday night I had a meeting that was conveniently at a local library. I took DD1 with me and let her peruse the books for an hour while I had my meeting, then took her to dinner (she's been left for dinner on her home a ton these past few weeks). Yesterday, I took the afternoon off to take DD2 to the doctor. During a 2hr span I received two "can I call you" texts from my c-suite colleagues and 2 additional phone calls. I took one urgent call from the parking lot outside the pediatrician. I've pulled along side the road or into a parking lot to take a call that requires me to access google files on my phone way too many times. My kids know the drill and are used to it (not that I'm proud of that!). While my girls sometimes say they are frustrated with my distraction or absenteeism, they also tell me that they tell their friends that I'm a bada$$ lady boss.
I think it is completely fine to outsource what you can...grocery delivery, meal kits/plans, housekeeping, yard maintenance, etc. It's also fine to sit down with the family and make all those things shared labor among all the family members so that it's not all on you.
And I agree with SnuggleBuggles, it's ok (and necessary!) for you to set reasonable boundaries with work. I have a coworker who is very religious and wishes to keep Sunday as sacred as possible. We know not to bother them unless it is "bleeding or burning" ie a true emergency that can't wait until Monday. We respect their need for that boundary. If you have a lot of evening and weekend events/activities that are work related, can you shift your work day and hold an hour or two in the morning as personal time?
Mom to two amazing DDs ('07 & '09) and a fur baby.
Gluten free since Nov '11 after non-celiac gluten sensitive diagnosis. Have had great improvement or total elimination of: migraines, bloating/distention, heartburn, cystic acne, canker sores, bleeding gums, eczema on elbows, dry skin and scalp, muscle cramps, PMS, hair loss, heart palpitations, fatigue. I'm amazed.