Thanks. It was a difficult year until we got the correct support people together. DS still sees his psychologist as he wanted to see him for maintenance, only 1x month. He no longer needs the other therapies. The biggest lesson I learned was DS’ mental health was most important and I’d do anything to protect that.
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I hope they can help you form a plan. It did take time to figure out what worked for DS. For him, a combination of music, mediation, PT stretches, and gentle exercise got him though the pain flares. Longer term it was the regular psychologist session, PT sessions, aqua PT sessions and acupuncture that helped DS.
It’s difficult to watch then be in pain and not be able to fix it. All we could do was support DS to go though the steps in the plan. He didn’t want to because he was in pain, but he had to do it. He was a minor so we did have some say in what he did. My worst days as a parent was to tell him on the phone I wasn’t picking him up from school because of the pain, he had to go through his plan with the school nurse supervising then go back to class. I cried and cried after I hung up the phone.
But it worked. The more he followed the plan, the more quickly he dealt with each pain flare and each flare didn’t last as long. Part of it was DS training himself to know he could deal with this chronic pain.
OP, sending hugs to you all!!
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Last edited by niccig; 02-22-2024 at 11:28 PM.
I would say:
Therapy for you
Therapy for DC
Figure out what you can farm out or quit--can you take leave from one of the jobs? Hire someone to clean? Anything to take a load off of you? Anything!
What is ONE thing you can do every day for you? Even if it is sit in your room and breathe with no interruptions for 10 minutes. Something
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I’m so sorry. There is no way to stay sane yourself given what you are dealing with. My situation is nowhere near yours (but just keep having small difficulties things that keep coming and coming), and I’ve been struggling as well. Taking walks (outdoors if possible) while listening to music helps temporarily. Given your kid’s screaming, I’d keep pushing trying to get them pain meds. I don’t have much advice but I’m here and I’m listening and i really hope things improve soon.
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So sorry to hear everything that's going on.
Since you were asking for advice (I think - disregard if not..) DD was originally a little skeptical/anxious about Uber. Walking through the steps/having a plan may help DC feel more comofortable - how to use the app, specifically check the license plate, text driver info to a friend upon getting in and out of car. Also - if drive is taking longer than expected at least one of the two (maybe both) will send a text asking if you need assistance. DD is now an experienced and confident user. While she's no longer in HS, she's still a very petite female and we do not have concerns with her taking an Uber alone.
Good luck/hope this season passes quickly.
Given that your pain appointment is a bit off, is there any chance DC might feel comfortable trying something else, like acupuncture or biofeedback or some other alternative method that might help, even in the short term?
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Also within Uber app, once you’re inside the car to begin journey to destination. Minor/friend can share ETA with you or their friends.
I’ve done it many times when I’m alone and traveling to unfamiliar destinations . Also can ask for no conversations from driver if they don’t want to interact.
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