I’m sorry you are going through that. People say that prepackaged “oh you have boys! Blah blah blah” because they have heard it before and think it’s an appropriate light-hearted conversation to say to someone new. So many of us don’t know what to say and are intimidated by introductions. We turn to the old standard comments because they feel safe even though we should realize they aren’t culturally appropriate anymore. I’m sorry because that would probably be me making those outdated comments. In less than a few weeks you will no longer be the new employee and all the stale “new person” chitchat will have faded away. And maybe you will have received some apologies from the idiots like me who realized later we made a poor comment choice.
I hope your new job goes well!
" I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Mahatma Gandhi
"This is the ultimate weakness of violence: It multiplies evil and violence in the universe. It doesn't solve any problems." Martin Luther King, Jr.