Originally Posted by
SnuggleBuggles
I'll bite my tongue on my overall thoughts on your dh (based on your posts).
Dh and I have different travel styles. I spring break without him each year.
He stays home and works, I take the kids somewhere drivable. It works really well for our family.
But I do think there are ways to compromise. If he isn't up when you want to be doing something, take dd. But, maybe somedays just plan to chill and not try and be on a schedule or get annoyed with his sleeping in. It can be done (finding the balance).
We already do a lot of things without him, like visit NYC, museums, historic sites, and the RenFaire (which we meet up with my sister to visit; she knows how to RenFaire!)
I guess where I'm at is that he's decided that this is a "family vacation" and I guess that's where I get frustrated by him just doing the things he does - if it's a family vacation, and we are a family, why does he do everything he can to avoid spending time with us as a family?
Originally Posted by
gymnbomb
I know many people (including my parents and myself to a lesser extent) get a huge mental benefit from the change of scenery or location even if the actual "things" they do there aren't different. Maybe your husband falls into that category? It is so easy to feel isolated when you can't go the places you would usually go, and anything to break that up is a very welcome change for me.
Yes, he does fall into the "I need a change of scene" category and I guess I understand, but I struggle with him pitching it as a "family vacation" when the way he acts doesn't encourage family time.
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Liz
DD (3/2010)
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