Lol, that's pretty horrendous! "...And we all need to do our part..." is probably one of the worst parts. Nobody HAS to give anyone anything when it comes to a baby shower gift, geez!
BabbyO, if you don't feel like having one, don't do it. I think it is sweet that family members are willing to throw you one. Like another pp mentioned, maybe a, "meet the baby" gathering after the baby has arrived may work out better for you.
Mom to 3 LEGO Maniacs
I had a sprinkle for ds2. It was a small gathering and everyone chipped in to get me a gift certificate for something fun that I wanted for the baby ( a new diaper bag). It was perfect. I do think all new babies deserve a celebration. I just wouldn't register and have the same sort of big thing as #1.
Beth
This. I love going to showers, even for 5th babies!
Yes, my gift for a subsequent shower is likely to be diapers or something. But I still enjoy celebrating
(And sorry, registering for older son's big boy room? Tacky. Whether or not you had a kid you'd be moving him up to a bigger boy room, right?)
Married 3/04
DS 8/07
DD born 8/11
I think that every baby deserves a celebration, absolutely.
BUT to call the celebration a "shower" means that it is a celebration for the purpose of giving/receiving gifts. And that, to me, is tacky for a second baby.
If people really *want* to give you a present, then they will, regardless of whether or not they are invited to a shower. So have a list ready so that you can give suggestions when people ask if there's anything you need. But I'd decline the shower. If you want a celebration, I'd suggest that you could have a "welcome baby" party sometime after the baby is born (and write "no gifts please" or something similar on the invitations so people know it's not meant to be a shower).
We didn't have one but in my area it is common to have showers for second babies whether they are 10 yrs. apart, or less than 2 yrs. apart. I went to probably 5 or 6 them for second children in my mom's group, and only two of those moms were having twins; most of the babies were less than 3 yrs. apart. I was a little put off that no one offered to host a shower for me, but I had to let it go. I didn't find out the sex of our baby either so I think that was part of the reason people didn't think to throw us a shower.
Last edited by AnnieW625; 06-22-2011 at 03:59 PM.
Annie
WOHM to two wonderful little girls born in April
DD E, 17
DD L, 13,
baby 2, 4-2009 (our Tri-18 baby)
I think perhaps it is regional? In my circle of friends, we do not do showers for 2nd children. I've never even been to a 2nd baby's shower. We typically just visit mom/newborn sometime after baby is born and bring a gift then.
If you aren't comfortable, then don't do it, but if people in your family are insistent, then just keep it small, close family.
Oh and that poem.... horrendous indeed!
We will be having a big tado after the baby (for the baptism) is born, so maybe we just plan for that.
I would NEVER register/ask for things for DS1's new room. That is SUPER tacky! I was just stating that in terms of the new baby, we don't really need much of anything because DS1 & DS2 will be so close in age. The things we do need (for DS1) I wouldn't ask for!