Last night's discussion was:
-every school is going to have a break in period
-despite how it looks, pretty much everyone is looking for friends and trying to find their people
-you have to try
-what's your plan after this semester?
-we understand if this school isn't the right place for you but for practical and financial reasons we can't/won't support school hopping. See first point- every school will have a break in period and 1 week in is too soon to know
Then it became action items when it became clear that he was simply going to bide his time til he could leave. I said no way. I said that he had to spend the next days there pretending he was stuck there for good and make the best of it. That good conversation you had in the dining hall at dinner with the potential new friend? Follow that through. See what happens. Use the social media page for your dorm and invite people to the lobby to play Cards Against Humanity (and if no one is interested then you'll be in the same boat as if you didn't try). Funny enough that is the exact same advice one of his friends gave him too. Ds1 was quick to write everyone off in his dorm but I said there could easily be another kid sitting in his dorm feeling the same way about their fellow hall mates and he wouldn't know it based on the social media current discussions. I gave him a few other ideas too.
So we have an action plan and I hope he tries it. I'm not keen to get him if it's simply a social issue because that can improve. But, it sounds like that's just one part of his concern. Maybe he'll have a great weekend and things will turn around. Maybe not. Here's to hoping though that at least he leaves there with some skills and confidence on starting somewhere new and finding his groove socially there.