Originally Posted by
twowhat?
I wouldn't feel bad about the "it's a phase" thought, I mean we had it too. "It's a phase" maybe isn't the best term for it, but I do feel like this generation is very open and kids are not afraid to begin exploring their sexual identities earlier, which is great. They're exposed to a lot more media and social influencers who are open about their own sexual identities and speak openly about it on their channels and to their supporters. I think it's of course definitely possible for kids to know at this age but also definitely possible that they don't know that they don't know and are still exploring, and it's great that they are sharing the process with us as parents!
I agree with this. When DD2 told me she's bisexual it was around the same time that Jojo Siwa came out and a few other social media influencers were posting about their bisexuality. She and I have also always been very open about talking about all the ways you can love another person and all the ways you can define your gender. From a very early age her conversations with me about "when I grow and get married/have a family" have always included her saying "it could be a boy or girl, I don't know yet" or "if my partner is trans but we want to have children then..." These ideas of the many ways to be have just been normalized for her. So the concept of her being bisexual, at age 11, could mean that she is bisexual, but could also mean that she's open to the idea that she could be attracted to men and women and at 11 doesn't yet know how that's going to play out. While I didn't assume it is a phase or tell her such, I did let her know that she's young and exploring and that who and how she loves may evolve over time and that it's okay for that to happen and it is okay for the labels to change. Or not.
Wouldn't it be great if all people headed into sexual maturity with the openminded belief that they could love any gender and then wait until they fall in love to affirm their sexual orientation? Instead of assuming a heterosexual default?
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