RE: DD freaks out about toenails being cut
We have problems trimming both fingernails and toenails. I think it tickles his feet and makes him squirm (although he also says it hurts). I've had the most luck trimming them when he's entranced with watching a show on TV. Occasionally DH or I will trim ours to try to get him "in the mood." Sometimes we bribe him "Do you want a cookie? Then you have to let Mommy trim your nails."
Interestingly, there was a period where I absolutely couldn't trim them (because he resisted too much). A couple of the toenails got long and broke. I pointed out how the nail was jagged, etc. and that seemed to really concern DS and he let me trim them all with no problem. So, maybe you can find a problem that needs fixed. :)
Mommy to Justin (13 years) & Ashlyn (8 years)